Looking for Josh's other half.

I'm going to be a dad. I just need one extraordinary woman to make it happen.

Marnus, Bobby and Josh
The story

Hey, I'm Marnus, and my dream is to be a dad.

I've always dreamed of being a dad. I want to bring someone into this world, love him unconditionally, show him its beauty, and learn from his entirely new perspective on it. More than anything else, this is what I want.

As a single gay man, I'm creating this family through surrogacy. The clinic is chosen, the medical process is underway in Mexico, everything is in place. Even the name is chosen: Josh. There is one thing missing — the woman who will give Josh the other half of his DNA.

Most people in my position use an agency database — a photo, a few facts, done. That never felt right to me. In my own journey I've experienced how much you are shaped by your DNA, and I want this to be more than a transaction.

I want Josh to have the best chance to be a healthy, happy human. So I'm searching for someone who carries that energy.

To be clear: I'm looking for an egg donor, not a co-parent. You would have no parenting responsibilities or obligations toward Josh. This is my journey as his dad — I'm simply looking for the right person to help make him possible.

I want Josh to inherit one thing above all else: joy.
So that's what I'm looking for in his donor.

What I'm looking for
Truly happy
Emotionally grounded, stable, no history of depression or mental illness. Someone who genuinely enjoys her life.
21–30 years old
In good physical health. Drug-free, non-smoker. No serious genetic conditions in the family.
Lives with intention
Yoga, mindfulness, or simply someone who thinks carefully about how she lives.
European background
Preferably similar descent to my own — South African of European heritage.
Open to the future
Not anonymous. Even though you won't have any parenting role, should Josh want to connect one day, to be open to that.
Intelligent & curious
Academic, creative, or simply someone who thinks deeply and cares about the world.
Donation history
Not donated more than twice before, so that Josh's genetic story remains unique.
Willing to travel
The process takes place in Mexico over approximately two weeks. All costs are fully covered.
Good intentions
Doing this because it feels meaningful — a genuine desire to help bring Josh into the world, not just a transaction.
How it works

You can live anywhere. Everything else is taken care of.

The donation process takes place in Mexico and lasts approximately two weeks. All travel, accommodation, and medical costs are fully covered.

This is not an anonymous arrangement. You'll know who I am. Josh will know your story exists — and when he's old enough to want to know more, that door will be open.

If you're curious, the first step is just a conversation. No commitment, no pressure.

Frequently asked questions
Who is Marnus?
I'm a South African living in Barcelona. I've spent my life travelling, building things, and collecting experiences I'm deeply grateful for. I live a full, active life — and I'm ready for the best chapter of it.
Who is Bobby?
Bobby is my dog and my current best friend. He's already very much part of this family — and I have no doubt he'll be Josh's most loyal companion from day one.
Will I be compensated?
Yes. All medical costs and travel to Mexico are fully covered, plus financial compensation for your time and commitment. Details can be discussed once we connect.
What does the process actually involve?
The egg donation takes place at a clinic in Mexico and takes approximately two weeks. You'll go through hormonal stimulation, monitoring, and egg retrieval — all managed by an experienced medical team.
Will I have any role in Josh's life?
No parenting role or responsibilities whatsoever. Josh will be my son to raise. The only thing I ask is that you remain open to him reaching out one day, if he ever chooses to.
Who will I be dealing with?
Me, personally. This isn't an agency process — you'll be in direct contact with me throughout. I'll respond to every message myself.
Where do I need to be based?
Anywhere in the world. As long as you're willing to travel to Mexico for the two-week process, location doesn't matter.
When are you looking to do this?
As soon as the right person comes forward. Everything else is already in place.
What happens after I reach out?
We have a simple conversation — no commitment, no pressure. Just a chance to get to know each other and see if it feels right.

Does this feel
like you?

If something here resonated — or you know someone it might — I'd love to hear from you.

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